When we were married, we knew adoption would be our most likely route to parenthood. We talked with friends, co-workers and family members who had adopted children domestically and internationally from several different countries. We got wise counsel from a Catholic deacon and his wife who had adopted three children and who conducted workshops for couples considering adoption.
In the end, we chose–or better the Spirit led us–to adopt a child from China. Many prayers, a nearly 6 inch stack of paperwork and 2.5 years later, we returned from China with our handsome son Michael.
When we were ready to adopt a second child, we wanted Michael to have a brother from China. Nearly all the Chinese orphans being placed overseas now have special needs. As older parents with no medical training, our options were limited. The Lord led us to David, a seven-year-old boy with alopecia (no hair), rough skin, vision problems and other manageable issues caused by a rare genetic abnormality.
With the help of the Adoption Clinic at the University of Chicago, David’s medical condition has improved in the year that he has been with us. With medicated creams, powerful eyeglasses, lots of love and good nutrition, he is growing, learning English at an amazing rate, doing well in school, playing sports and adapting to family life in the US.
The transition wasn’t easy for David at first, though. He spoke virtually no English and had been in a pre-school program at the orphanage in China. First grade was a challenge for him and for the teachers and aides. Nevertheless, he came home after just a few weeks in school with a drawing of our family (Dad, Mom, two boys and a dog) with the words “Thanks for my new family.”
We didn’t adopt children to get praise or store up graces in heaven. We simply did it because we felt it was the right thing for us. Adoption was the way that a childless middle-age couple became a family. And now, we hope that we can guide these two young boys to be good, loving, caring, responsible people… and that we will have good health and live long enough to see them grow to adulthood.
-Tom and Nancy