Post Adoption Resources

Our post adoption team has put together some helpful reminders and resources as you navigate these unusual times with your family.
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SCHEDULES/ROUTINES – Children, especially those who were previously attending school, tend to thrive on schedules and predictable routine. And, let’s be honest, so do we. Schedules and routines are hard to stick to these days, but it can be very helpful to have each day planned out as best as possible. For parents, tentatively planning your days (or week) may help take away some of the stress associated with trying to come up with activities in the moment. For children, decreased schedule ambiguity may help give a sense of safety when the world feels generally unsafe. Remember, a schedule can be viewed with flexibility and does not need to be minute-by-minute.
  • Try to add in some fun family nights: art nights, movie nights, themed dinners, read aloud, participate in webinars through libraries and museums, etc.
  • Try to be active together: dance, sing, do yoga, throw a frisbee, take walks or bike rides, plant a garden, collect cool rocks, etc.
  • Have your child assist with picking activities (and even meals) for the week. This may help get them more invested in the plans.
TIME TO CONNECT – Although it may not feel like it at times, this can be a great time to connect with your child. Making a point to focus on your child and how this experience may feel like for them will likely support better adjustment.
  • Spend time doing activities that are meaningful to your child.
  • Use feeling words and be sure to hug each other. Touch matters.
  • Mirror your child’s emotions. Reflection helps children experience acceptance and validation which in turn increases their emotional health and self-awareness
PRACTICE KINDNESS – When everything is out of sync, it is easy to let stress build up. This often manifest in anger or frustration towards others, or even yourself.
  • Be kind to yourself, we can only nurture others when we are nurturing ourselves as well
  • Try to focus on the positive aspects of this experience, such as the gift of time with your family
  • Practice random acts of kindness in your household and try find ways to extend this to others, your neighbors, family members, friends, etc.
RELATIONSHIPS & SCHOOL – If you were not a homeschool teacher before this pandemic, then you are not homeschool teacher now. It is challenging with children attending school online. Most of us do not have a background in teaching and many are also having to work from home as well. Be patient with yourself and remember that your relationship with your child and everyone’s adjustment to this experience is ultimately more important than schoolwork.
  • Instead of being a teacher, try to view yourself as supporting your child’s online learning
  • Remember that some days will be better than others and this is not a reflection of you as a parent in general or a reflection of your ability to support your child academically
  • Reach out to teachers and set boundaries. You know your child best. If there is too much work or your child needs extra support, verbalize this.
  • Change how your child learns – many schools are relying on technology for learning and not every child will be successful learning this way. Get outside, learn through play, let children work together – whatever makes sense for your child, you, and your family
KEEP CONNECTIONS STRONG – Isolation can be debilitating. Try to stay in touch with family and friends.
  • Schedule video chats over Skype, Zoom, FaceTime, etc.
  • Bring back the art of letter writing! Ask if your child would like to create art for others and send it snail mail.
  • Schedule social distancing meet-ups with family and friends if you feel this is safe for your family – Have a bring your own pizza party in the yard, do a drive-by parade, or take walks and visit with neighbors in their yards.
SAFETY REMINDERS – Children may be more anxious, more quiet, more angry, or more attention seeking right now.
  • Abnormal news stories (i.r. empty shelves and long lines at grocery stores) can bring up fears from the past and anxieties about the future. Try to do routine inventory checks with your child. Scavenger hunts are a fun way to remind them where they can find everything! If necessary, make lists.
  • The loss of a school routine, teachers, and friends may cause children to feel a sense of abandonment. Try to build in other ways to stay connected with their peers and maintain celebrations of milestones.
  • Please reach out to an adoption competent therapist or CCAI social worker if you need guidance
GIVE YOURSELF GRACE – It is ok if this is hard. We have never experienced anything like this before.
  • Remember that you do not have to be perfect and your experience will look different from that of other people
  • Set boundaries for yourself – stay off social media if you find yourself comparing yourself to others, limit communication with non-supportive individuals, take breaks if possible from being ‘on’
  • Take time at the end of every day to celebrate any successes, no matter how small – You took a shower? Celebrate! Made lunch? Celebrate! Finished a huge project at work? Celebrate! Made it through the day? Celebrate!
  • You are not expected to do it all, every day. Accomplish what you can and set aside what you can’t for another day
  • If your kids are watching more tv or spending more times on screens than usual, it’s okay. Again, these are different times.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF – It is important that you continue to get your own needs met as you work to meet the needs of your family.
  • Stay hydrated. Dehydration can cause headaches and a lack of focus. Drink lots of water to keep your brain and body in optimal health.
  • Try to find time for physical activity outside of running after your children. Physical activity promotes physical and mental health and helps boost your mood. It’s science! Remember that even a small amount of physical activity is great! Take a short walk (or a long one), try an online exercise class, practice stretching, do some morning stretches…whatever works best for you.
  • Eat well as often as possible – try to regularly eat healthy meals and include high protein snacks throughout the day, especially if you feel like your blood sugar is dropping and feel yourself becoming irritable. But, let’s be honest, sometimes a bowl of ice cream fixes any bad day!
  • Maintain a healthy sleep schedule – Try to get as much sleep as possible and take naps if needed and you are able.
  • Make sure you have someone to talk to about how you are feeling during this time.
  • Take time for you. Do whatever it is that recharges your battery – reading a book, working in the garden, going for a walk, talking with a friend, etc. Remember that self-care does not have to be time consuming. Even a 5 minute shower can be a good reset.
  • Connect with a therapist online if you feel this would be helpful. CCAI can assist in finding referrals if you need additional support.
Beyond these reminders, the most important thing to remember is that you are allowed to ask for help. CCAI is always here and ready to serve you.
Below are some other wonderful online resources worth checking out for your family. There are many great online resources being offered right now!
Take Care and Stay Well!

What 2018 Brought Us — CCAI Circle 2018

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Our 2018 CCAI Circle Newsletter is finally out!  Read about all that 2018 brought us and learn about some exciting new happenings that 2019 has in store for our community! China’s changing policies, CCAI’s Eastern Europe and Taiwan program updates, amazing family stories, MyTaproot birth family search, our new The Park Adoption Community Center — It’s all here!

https://ccaifamily.org/Newsletter/Circle/Circle2018.pdf

WE DID IT! YOU DID IT!!

CO Gives Day goal reached

WE DID IT! YOU DID IT!!

With your passionate giving, we received an incredible $29,600+ in donations from #ColoradoGivesDay alone, beating last year’s numbers by over $10,000!!!

Thank you, from the bottom of our overwhelmed hearts, for choosing CCAI as one of your charities to support. In this season of giving, we know how tight money can be. Words cannot express our gratitude for such an amazing turn out!

Please continue sharing your CCAI stories with friends and family. As the year wraps up, we hope 2017 continues to shatter records in our passionate mission to support our families and the children still waiting for their own forever families.

Thank you.

Colorado Gives Day is Here!

Colorado Gives Day 2017

Today is the day!

Colorado Gives Day has arrived! No matter where you are in the world, you can participate in Colorado Gives Day and make your donation go further.

We would be honored if you would keep CCAI in mind when making donations through Colorado Gives, today. In our 25 years of service, CCAI has strived to provide a legacy of vital and unique support for orphanages, children, and families in our adoption community and beyond. This has been possible solely due to the generosity and passion of our donors.

Colorado Gives Day is a day that gives back to all the non-profits in Colorado. Every dollar you give goes further on Colorado Gives Day. For every donation, First Bank matches 10 percent up to $1 million!

Last year, you helped us raise an incredible $15,105 on Colorado Gives Day! Visit https://www.coloradogives.org/index.php?section=organizations&action=newDonation&fwID=27901 today and help us make an even bigger impact this year!

So, invite your friends, invite your family, invite that stranger you met at the grocery store…invite everyone! With a little help from our friends, thousands of children’s lives will be changed for the better, forever!

Thank you 🙂

CCAI 2016 Year In Review

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With your support, 2016 proved to be a fantastic year for CCAI! Here are some of the most exciting highlights as we usher in the New Year:

• 467 orphans from five countries found their forever families!!!
• CCAI’s orphanage partnerships increased to 40 orphanages from four Chinese provinces
• CCAI’s charity arm, with the help of our trusting and generous donors, launched 60 projects and invested $903,000, touching the lives of 5,085 orphans
• CCAI’s Charity Team undertook 60 trips to 40 orphanages to provide child care training
• CCAI currently operates seven Lily Orphan Care Centers in China (visit www.ccaifamily.org/OrphanCare/Lily-OrphanCare to learn more about CCAI’s charity efforts)
• 47 older children from 9 orphanages participated in summer and winter hosting programs and had a wonderful time experiencing the love of a family
• CCAI was selected as one of four US adoption agencies to assist CCCWA in finding homes for nearly 2,000 extremely hard-to-place orphans. CCAI sent a team of ten professional photographers to China to photograph and film some of these hard-to-place orphans to help raise awareness
• 112 families (389 individuals, including 158 adoptees) participated in four China Heritage tours, including an invitation by the Chinese government to visit the Great Hall for a grand welcome ceremony
• 306 adoptees from 32 states participated in Adopteen‘s many events (Adopteen Camp-Conference and Retreats, Adoptstronauts Retreat, Adopteen and Adoptween Hangouts, and Adoptees Giving Back Orphanage Service Trip – 2017 trip applications open now atwww.adopteen.org)
• Our Joyous Chinese Cultural Center (JCCC) had a strong year with 210 students and welcomed over 2,000 K-12 students from 30 local schools to participate in 28 China Field Trips
• JCCC’s 2016 Chinese New Year Celebration had an attendance of 900+ (Tickets for 2017 CNY Celebration available now at www.joyouscenter.org)
• CCAI added a new Taiwan adoption program!

The Connected Parent class 2016

2016 Connected Parent

Registration is now open for our class: The Connected Parent

Children with a history of trauma, abuse or neglect need a different type of parenting. The Connected Parent class will help families reach a deeper understanding of their reactions to their children’s behaviors while learning new tools to regulate their feelings so they can respond to their children’s needs. The Connected Parent is an 8 week class designed to:

• Help children heal 
• Develop secure attachments 
• Empower children to grow 
• Discipline effectively while maintaining a connection

The structure of the class is such that parents will receive instruction and support while their children participate in a separate group, also learning many of the techniques in an age appropriate manner.

Cost is $350/Family and registration covers two parents and two children ($50 per additional child; children’s class intended for ages 3-8)

Classes will be held at CCAI in Centennial, Colo. For more information or to register, contact Shelly Burkey at 303-850-9998 x22 or postadoption@ccaifamily.org.

HOPE FOR ORPHANS: RootedATX Conference

LOGOHas your adoption or foster care left you struggling? Our friends at Hope for Orphans know adoptive and foster families across America that are struggling with children with PTSD, neglect, hurt, and rejection in their past. Many of these families are in full crisis and their church or orphan ministry is not positioned to help. This is why they are excited to announce RootedATX, a conference that has been prayerfully designed for these families. We hope that you can join them on November 6 & 7 in Austin, TX as they seek to equip families to parent their children with the Gospel.

bridgeRooted ATX is presented by Hope for Orphans in partnership with the For the City Network and hosted by Austin Stone Community Church. The conference will be held in Austin, Texas at the Austin Stone Community Church West Campus Ministry Center located in Westlake Hills.

Speakers will include:

LIVE
• Dr. Larry Bergstrom M.D.: Mayo Clinic
• Jeremy Lelek P.hD.: President of the Association of Biblical Counselors

BY VIDEO
• Dr. Kevin Peck: Lead Pastor of Austin Stone Community Church
• Pastor Halim Suh: Pastor of Teaching and Theology at Austin Stone Community Church
• Dr. Paul Tripp: Pastor and International Speaker
• Voddie Bauchum: Pastor and Dean of the Seminary at African Christian University
• Jon Bergeron P.hD.: Clinical Psychologist
• Jill Minnix: Women’s Bible Teacher
• Robin Pennington: Hope for Orphans’ Co-founder

CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Rooted Digital Resource Trailer from Hope for Orphans on Vimeo.

Post Adoption Center 8-week class series

We are happy to announce our Post Adoption Center‘s second 8-week class series offering of Parenting the Hurt Child!  Our first class will start September 3, 2013 from 5:30pm – 7:30pm.  All class sessions will be coordinated in tandem with our children’s nurture group!

Please join us for an incredible 8-week journey of growth and support!  This 8-week series will provide you with a lifetime’s worth of tools.  It cannot be missed!

Cost is $400 per family for the entire series.  For individual class pricing, please check the flyer.

REGISTRATION DEADLINE IS AUGUST 27, 2013.

Please contact Heather Diaz at postadoption@ccaifamily.org for more information!

Family Testimonials

“My daughter used to say ‘I hate you’ to me every day, several times a day. Now she says it hardly at all. When she gets upset, instead of yelling and screaming, she takes a deep breath and says, ‘I need to be respectful’. This has been truly amazing.”

“We’ve already started using some of the principles we’ve learned in the parent’s and children’s classes, and averted 3 behavioral meltdowns in one day!”

“I think the way this class has helped the most is in helping me to see what my son needs the most, and helping to meet those needs. Seeing him through that lens has given me more appreciation for the fact that he doesn’t want to act that way, but he doesn’t know that he has other options. Thank you for that.”

Class Schedule

Basics of Infant and Child Attachment
September 3, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

When Attachment Goes Wrong
September 10, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Healing Attachment
September 17, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Empowering Principles
September 24, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Sensory Processing Disorder
October 1, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Correcting Principles 101
October 8, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Correcting Principles 102
October 15, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Applying Principles at Home: Family Nurture Group
October 22, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM