The Connected Parent class 2016

2016 Connected Parent

Registration is now open for our class: The Connected Parent

Children with a history of trauma, abuse or neglect need a different type of parenting. The Connected Parent class will help families reach a deeper understanding of their reactions to their children’s behaviors while learning new tools to regulate their feelings so they can respond to their children’s needs. The Connected Parent is an 8 week class designed to:

• Help children heal 
• Develop secure attachments 
• Empower children to grow 
• Discipline effectively while maintaining a connection

The structure of the class is such that parents will receive instruction and support while their children participate in a separate group, also learning many of the techniques in an age appropriate manner.

Cost is $350/Family and registration covers two parents and two children ($50 per additional child; children’s class intended for ages 3-8)

Classes will be held at CCAI in Centennial, Colo. For more information or to register, contact Shelly Burkey at 303-850-9998 x22 or postadoption@ccaifamily.org.

HOPE FOR ORPHANS: RootedATX Conference

LOGOHas your adoption or foster care left you struggling? Our friends at Hope for Orphans know adoptive and foster families across America that are struggling with children with PTSD, neglect, hurt, and rejection in their past. Many of these families are in full crisis and their church or orphan ministry is not positioned to help. This is why they are excited to announce RootedATX, a conference that has been prayerfully designed for these families. We hope that you can join them on November 6 & 7 in Austin, TX as they seek to equip families to parent their children with the Gospel.

bridgeRooted ATX is presented by Hope for Orphans in partnership with the For the City Network and hosted by Austin Stone Community Church. The conference will be held in Austin, Texas at the Austin Stone Community Church West Campus Ministry Center located in Westlake Hills.

Speakers will include:

LIVE
• Dr. Larry Bergstrom M.D.: Mayo Clinic
• Jeremy Lelek P.hD.: President of the Association of Biblical Counselors

BY VIDEO
• Dr. Kevin Peck: Lead Pastor of Austin Stone Community Church
• Pastor Halim Suh: Pastor of Teaching and Theology at Austin Stone Community Church
• Dr. Paul Tripp: Pastor and International Speaker
• Voddie Bauchum: Pastor and Dean of the Seminary at African Christian University
• Jon Bergeron P.hD.: Clinical Psychologist
• Jill Minnix: Women’s Bible Teacher
• Robin Pennington: Hope for Orphans’ Co-founder

CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Rooted Digital Resource Trailer from Hope for Orphans on Vimeo.

CCAI Parent Training Schedule 2015-2016

CCAI’s parent training meets the requirements of the State of Colorado for domestic and international adoption.

CCAI’s parent training is available to any family that resides in Colorado.

If you are interested in attending CCAI’s parent training classes or want more information please contact Sheila King, the Colorado Parent Training Coordinator at cotraining@ccaifamily.org or 303-850-9998 x42.

Click here to download a PDF of our class schedule (Sept 2015 – May 2016)

CCAI Parenting Class Schedule

September 1, 2015 through May 31, 2016
Saturday September 12, 2015
9:00 am to 12:00 pm Assisting in Your Child’s Development (Required for all International and some Domestic Adoptions)
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Friday September 25, 2015
8:30 am to 9:00 am The Adoption Process (Required for all Adoptions)
9:00 am to 12:00 pm Grief, Loss, & Other Adoption Conversations (Required for all Adoptions)
1:00 pm to 3:00 pm Basic Child Care (Required for all Adoptions)
3:00 pm to 6:00 pm Being a Multi-Cultural Family (Required for all Adoptions)
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Saturday September 26, 2015
8:00 am – 12:00 pm Attachment (Required for all Adoptions)
1:00 pm – 5:00 pm Parenting through Your Child’s Developmental Stages (Required for all Adoptions)
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Saturday Saturday October 24, 2015
9:00 am – 12:00 pm Special Needs & Older Child Adoption: Considerations & Rewards (Required for all Special Needs Adoptions)
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Saturday November 7, 2015
1:00 pm – 5:00 pm Introduction and Overview of Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI®) (Required for all Adoptions)
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Friday January 22, 2016
8:30 am to 9:00 am The Adoption Process (Required for all Adoptions)
9:00 am to 12:00 pm Grief, Loss, & Other Adoption Conversations (Required for all Adoptions)
1:00 pm to 3:00 pm Basic Child Care (Required for all Adoptions)
3:00 pm to 6:00 pm Being a Multi-Cultural Family (Required for all Adoptions)
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Saturday January 23, 2016
8:00 am – 12:00 pm Attachment (Required for all Adoptions)
1:00 pm – 5:00 pm Parenting through Your Child’s Developmental Stages (Required for all Adoptions)
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Saturday February 20, 2016
9:00 am to 12:00 pm Assisting in Your Child’s Development (Required for all International and some Domestic Adoptions)
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Saturday March 12, 2016
1:00 pm – 5:00 pm Introduction and Overview of Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI®)
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Saturday April 16, 2016
9:00 am – 12:00 pm Special Needs & Older Child Adoption: Considerations & Rewards (Required for all Special Needs Adoptions)
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Friday April 29, 2016
8:30 am to 9:00 am The Adoption Process (Required for all Adoptions)
9:00 am to 12:00 pm Grief, Loss, & Other Adoption Conversations (Required for all Adoptions)
1:00 pm to 3:00 pm Basic Child Care (Required for all Adoptions)
3:00 pm to 6:00 pm Being a Multi-Cultural Family (Required for all Adoptions)
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Saturday April 30, 2016
8:00 am – 12:00 pm Attachment (Required for all Adoptions)
1:00 pm – 5:00 pm Parenting through Your Child’s Developmental Stages (Required for all Adoptions)
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Parenting The Hurt Child Camp is going great!


TBRI camp

On Friday, June 27, 2014  and Saturday, June 28, 2014, we have our second annual Parenting The Hurt Child camp!  It has so far gone incredibly well with 7 families and 22 children in attendance!

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The kids are having a blast while their parents spend valuable time learning and preparing to meet their kids’ needs.  Our Parenting The Hurt Child camp is a two-day, 12-hour camp for both parents and children, based on the Trust Based Relational Intervention (TBRI®) model.  Parents learn how to deepen their attachments, fortify their ability to support sensory processing needs, and find effective ways to discipline children with a history of trauma.  In tandem, the children learn basic social and family skills, how to handle their own self-regulation and sensory needs, and have the chance to practice all of these important skills through play therapy!

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We absolutely love our camps and are having a great time.  If you would like to learn more about our Parenting The Hurt Child camps and classes, please email postadoption@ccaifamily.org!

Here’s what’s going on with CCAI! CCAI National Reunion, TBRI Classes, AdopTween

Let’s catch up…  We want you come hang out with us whenever you can; we love seeing you!  Here are some events that might help us all keep in touch. 😉

Save the Dates

May 3: CCAI Prospective Families Social — 2:00 PM – 4:00 PM — Hosted by CCAI’s Adoptive Parents Council, ALL CCAI families (past, present, and future) welcome!!! This event is open to the public and will be held at CCAI CO Headquarters.  Contact APC@ccaifamily.org for more information!

May 10: CCAI Florida 3rd Annual Mother & Child Teatime — Contact ccaifl@ccaifamily.org for more information!

May 18: CCAI Florida Informational Session — Bay Life Church — Contact ccaifl@ccaifamily.org for more information!

June 7 & 14:  Xpress Yourself — Group art and play therapy for adopted children, ages 7-12.  Contact postadoption@ccaifamily.org for more information!

June 27 & 28: Trust-Based Relational Parenting Condensed Classes — Contact postadoption@ccaifamily.org for more information!

June 28:  CCAI’s 20th Annual National Reunion! — Mark those calendars!  This will be our 20th annual national reunion and we want to see all of your beautiful faces and catch up!  Hosted by CCAI’s Adoptive Parents Council, contact APC@ccaifamily.org for more information!

We hope to see you soon! 

Parenting the Hurt Child: a TBRI® Class

With more and more children coming home to forever families, CCAI continues to provide post adoption training and support to families.  In March, we began our 8 week class addressing how to parent and support children with a history of trauma, which includes almost all children who join families after foster care or adoption.  The class so far is going wonderfully, with families enjoying learning new skills and ways to interact with their children.

The weekend of April 4 and 5, several CCAI team members took this valuable training to Wyoming, to present the training to both professionals who work with the foster care and adoption systems, and also to families who are parenting these children.  About 15 professionals and 20 parents were present for the training – a huge success!

Are you interested in attending the class?  Here are the particulars:

–        Parenting the Hurt Child is a class based on the TBRI® model developed by TCU’s Institute of Child Development.  This is a parenting style that works with biological, foster, and adopted children.

–        The class helps families deal with the difficulties of parenting children who have a difficult history, including attachment and behavioral challenges.

–        Our next opportunity for the class is a two-day camp/conference for both parents and children. Our hope is that this will enable families outside the Denver area to attend if they would like.  The class will meet June 27-28 from 9AM-4PM.  Cost is $400 per family (with an additional charge for three or more children).  Contact postadoption@ccaifamily.org to register and save a space.

This class is life changing.  If you are parenting a child and find yourself struggling with behavior challenges, missing the joy of being with your child, or wanting a deeper connection, this class is for you.  Don’t miss the opportunity to attend!

2013-2014 Parent Training Kicks Off

We held our first Parent Training class of the 2013-2014 training year today at the Colorado CCAI office!  Eager prospective adoptive families in Colorado, anxious to put in the required hours of parent training, are attending classes all of today and tomorrow.  We have nothing but admiration for their attention span and appreciation for their dedication!

CCAI is committed to preparing adoptive families for adoption.  We want to provide adoptive families with the resources, skills, and tools necessary to be successful parents when they return home with their child(ren).  At CCAI, we encourage families’ full participation in parent training so that they may be prepared for the potential difficulties they may face when bringing a new child into their family.  It is important to acknowledge that adoption can be challenging and our parent training is made available to realistically prepare families as much as possible.

The nitty-gritty details of Parent Training:

The State of Colorado requires a minimum of 16-20 hours of face to face training for all domestic adoption and 24 hours of training (which is also Hague compliant) for international adoption, of which 16 hours must be face to face.  Colorado families are required to take the following classes to meet state requirements:   ‘Attachment’, ‘Parenting through Your Child’s Developmental Stages’, ‘Grief & Loss & Talking to Your Child about Adoption’, ‘Assisting in the Development of Your Newly Adopted Child’, ‘Basic Child Care’, and ‘Being a Multi-Cultural Family’.  CCAI also offers several specialized classes:  ‘Chinese Culture’, ‘Special Needs and Older Child Adoption: Considerations & Rewards’, ‘Adopting Children of African Descent’, and ‘Introduction and Overview of Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI®)’.         

For adoptive families who reside outside the State of Colorado, CCAI provides online training that meets 10 hours of Hague required training.  Adoptive families take the following classes:  ‘Attachment 101 and 102’, ‘Grief & Loss in Adoption’, ‘Talking to Your Child about Adoption’, ‘Assisting in Your Child’s Development Parts 1-3’, and ‘Being a Multi-Cultural Family’.  Families adopting from China also receive an additional 2 hours of training with the following classes:  ‘Overview of China Adoption’ and ‘Chinese Culture Parts 1 and 2’.

CCAI is happy to announce that we have recently added another online class for adoptive families:  ‘Special Needs and Older Child Adoption’.  This class is highly recommended for all families adopting from the Waiting Child program.  To access this class, adoptive families just need to log onto the www.parenttraining.org website!

If you have questions about parent training, please contact our Parent Training Coordinator, Sheila, at CCAI:  training@ccaifamily.org or 303-850-9998 x42.

Post Adoption Center 8-week class series

We are happy to announce our Post Adoption Center‘s second 8-week class series offering of Parenting the Hurt Child!  Our first class will start September 3, 2013 from 5:30pm – 7:30pm.  All class sessions will be coordinated in tandem with our children’s nurture group!

Please join us for an incredible 8-week journey of growth and support!  This 8-week series will provide you with a lifetime’s worth of tools.  It cannot be missed!

Cost is $400 per family for the entire series.  For individual class pricing, please check the flyer.

REGISTRATION DEADLINE IS AUGUST 27, 2013.

Please contact Heather Diaz at postadoption@ccaifamily.org for more information!

Family Testimonials

“My daughter used to say ‘I hate you’ to me every day, several times a day. Now she says it hardly at all. When she gets upset, instead of yelling and screaming, she takes a deep breath and says, ‘I need to be respectful’. This has been truly amazing.”

“We’ve already started using some of the principles we’ve learned in the parent’s and children’s classes, and averted 3 behavioral meltdowns in one day!”

“I think the way this class has helped the most is in helping me to see what my son needs the most, and helping to meet those needs. Seeing him through that lens has given me more appreciation for the fact that he doesn’t want to act that way, but he doesn’t know that he has other options. Thank you for that.”

Class Schedule

Basics of Infant and Child Attachment
September 3, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

When Attachment Goes Wrong
September 10, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Healing Attachment
September 17, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Empowering Principles
September 24, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Sensory Processing Disorder
October 1, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Correcting Principles 101
October 8, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Correcting Principles 102
October 15, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Applying Principles at Home: Family Nurture Group
October 22, 2013 5:30-7:30 PM

Information Meeting Reminder

Just a reminder:

There will be an information meeting this Wednesday, January 9th @ 6:00 pm MST, led by CCAI President Joshua Zhong. If you or a friend are looking into international adoption, please call in to let Joshua give you the 411 on CCAI!

Just send us an email or give us a call to make a reservation: mail@ccaifamily.org or (303) 850-9998

All information meetings are free and held every other Wednesday!

Adoption Awareness Month Featured Blogger: Leslie Sharpe, “Difficult Topics”

Happy endings are the goal for all of us, but the experience of being adopted and processing what that means is not always easy.

One of the things I have struggled with as a parent is how and when to talk with my child about the complex issues that have resulted in so many children being available for adoption in China. Issues like China’s One Child Policy and the reasons for its implementation, as well as cultural traditions that go back thousands of years, are not exactly topics of casual conversation with a six-year-old.

So how can we introduce these issues to our children in a way they’ll understand them, and not feel hurt by them?

Borrowing an idea from a friend who adopted domestically, my husband and I approached these issues early on. Our friend had made a book for her nieces and nephews explaining a bit about adoption and introducing the newest member of their family. I was inspired to do something similar and put together a book that featured photos of Petunia, as well as some factual information about China and adoption. We had received our match in early December and were to travel in mid-January, so it fell at a great time, as we were seeing our extended family at Christmas.

We have all probably experienced well-meaning but invasive and sometimes inappropriate questions, so this was in part an attempt to head those off and to make sure everyone was operating with the facts as we understood them.

We have not yet discussed the One Child Policy with Petunia, but we did address it in the book we had prepared for our relatives — writing about the policy’s attempts to avoid another Great Famine, which had resulted in millions of deaths in China in the 1950’s and 1960’s.

A friend’s daughter recently learned about China’s traditional preference for boys from an older classmate and took it quite hard. This was a wake-up call for us.  We needed to tackle the subject before Petunia heard it somewhere else. Fortunately, I had recently purchased the book, Ruby’s Wish, by Shirin Yim Bridges. The book, an Ezra Jack Keats Award winner, is a true story about a girl growing up in nineteenth century China. She was part of a large household and was sad that, unlike her male cousins, college was not in her future.

Image source: http://www.chroniclebooks.com

We found her struggles to be a good way to introduce a difficult topic and tried to put it into context by talking about perceived gender roles in the U.S. as well as in China. We also discussed the Chinese tradition that boys take care of their parents in their old age, and how that might contribute to a tradition of more advantages for boys.  Petunia is not alone in her questions, though.  We are all learning as we go and will do our best to figure things out together.

How have you brought up these difficult topics with your child?  I am a firm believer that families formed through adoption should share ideas and information. Please share your ideas on this topic in the comments section below.

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This is a personal post. The views expressed in this article are mine and do not necessarily represent the views of, nor should they be attributed to, CCAI.

Leslie Sharpe is a former counselor and nonprofit manager who blogs at www.kudzuasheville.blogspot.com.  Her dream of being a mother came true when she and her husband journeyed to Chongqing with CCAI’s Group 1111. Petunia is a pseudonym used to protect her daughter’s privacy.